Remember the
cartoon Dagwood and Blondie? It often made me smile. Poor misunderstood
Dagwood. Seems no matter what he did he was always in the doghouse over
something. I do not remember him buying flowers or cards, candy or jewelry to
apologize? Do you? He just had lots of excuses why it happened and why it
wouldn’t happen again. Truth is in real life when somebody does something to
HURT you… whether intentional or not… do they owe you an apology and what kind?
Sometimes the hurt runs so deep that mere words alone do not let somebody off
the hook, do they? Or is something more needed? Particularly between husbands
and wives? If your spouse flippantly
told you to buy yourself something at Jared or Kay after getting caught doing
something naughty? What would you do? Is that enough of an effort put forth to
erase the bad and allow you to forgive them? Do monetary gestures tackle the
problem or make it worse in your opinion? The greeting card companies have
hundreds of cards lining the store aisles that address the problem and say I’m sorry for you. Have you honestly ever
bought one? Or more importantly received one? Maybe a different approach works.
Have you ever given somebody the SILENT treatment when they do not appear to capitulate
in some form to acknowledge the trouble they caused and the hurt they
inflicted? To forgive is often easier
said than done, isn’t it? But in the long run, when you love someone what
choice do you have? This too shall pass.
Or does it? Do you hold a grudge? My husband seldom if ever says he’s sorry.
Yet, I always do, for even minor infractions, guilty or not. Are we mismatched or what? How do
you apologize?
