Monday, October 21, 2019

I'M BACK FOR NOW



I am sorry I stopped blogging. I have had a tumultuous year thus far. Shortly after my father died, my oldest daughter’s boyfriend also died. He had needed a liver transplant and simply couldn’t hold out any longer. He was 45 years old. My daughter was devastated. A month or so later my younger daughter told me and my hubby she was going to undergo surgery for a lump in her breast and a spot on her ovary. Fortunately neither was cancer. But she has another large spot on her lungs that still needs to be investigated. And it will be at the end of this month. Just as things were starting to get back to normal we got a call from the hospital asking us to get there right away. When I arrived I was met by two hospital chaplains who took me into a room with about 10 doctors and nurses as my older daughter was seizing in the bed. She asked for a priest though she’s not Catholic. The doctor in charge told me he wasn’t going to let her die. She had suffered a heart attack a couple days before and had not told us and was now hanging by a thread. She survived but the stress of the whole thing was taxing. There were many tests and things she had to go through before she got the all clear. My hubby and I stayed by her side and took care of our grandchildren while she recovered. During that time my husband got sick, his back and stomach pain increased and he had to go to the doctor. He has five blown discs in his back and needs surgery. He has COPD so that may be a problem having surgery. And they told him because he’s 80 it might take up to a year to recover and that the surgery could make the pain worse and he might become paralyzed. For the time being he’s opted not to have the surgery. Meanwhile, I got a pain in my lower buttocks making walking and climbing stairs near impossible. The MRI shows I have degenerative arthritis in my lower spine particularly at the s1 joint. The pain is excruciating. It feels like someone stabbed me with a knife and is rooting around in there. As a result I have spent most of the past four months in bed. I go to the doctor this week to see where we go from here. Unfortunately the following week on October 28th I’ve been summoned for jury duty. Because of my health at the moment I’m trying to get out of it. I won’t be able to climb the stairs at the courthouse and may not be able to walk around to the ramp which is quite the distance away. I have been saying my prayers everyday that this bad streak hitting me and my family goes away. It’s been weighing on our emotional and physical well being since my dad died back in April. There was no summer vacation or spring break, only one thing after another piling up. I have been reluctant to write about all my problems figuring you don’t need to hear them. But truth be told I miss you guys and really could use some extra prayers sent my way. Thanks for listening. I appreciate it.


17 comments:

Pilot Mountain gal said...

You are in my prayers. I have always heard the saying'God doesn't put more on you than you can handle'. My prayer is for him to wrap his arms around you to get through all this.

Cheapchick said...

Wow, what a terrible time. Hugs to you and your family

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Oh my, that saying about when it rains it pours certainly applies to you. You and yours are in my prayers. So glad you wrote as I wondered why we hadn't heard much from you lately. Now I can pray and will. May the dear Lord bless you with only good things from now on. Hang in there!

Mevely317 said...

You've been missed, m'dear … but thank you for unburdening yourself today. My prayers are lifted for you and all those you love. Hope you won't mind my asking my team of prayer warriors to join me. (Names omitted, of course … God knows the details). BIG HUG!

Jon said...

I'm so glad that you finally decided to unburden your problems. Writing always serves as a catharsis - and we fellow bloggers are your friends. I'm sure I speak for others in saying that we truly care.

Your long absence from blogging made me suspect that something was wrong, but I was always glad when you left comments on my blog.

I'm so sorry to hear about the avalanche of difficulties you're facing. We are often given too much to endure. My own barrage of personal problems have made me very bitter - but I won't elaborate.

I'm sending positive thoughts, prayers, and love - hoping that the clouds will lift and you'll see sunshine in your life again. Take care and keep us posted.

Jon said...

One more thing:

When I lived in Texas my Mom was summoned for jury duty when she was 80. I simply sent them a note saying she was elderly and in bad health - and we never heard from them again.

THEN,about a month later, I was called for jury duty. I sent them another note saying that I was caring for my elderly mother and couldn't go. I never heard from them again.

I'm sure you can get out of J.D. because of your health issues. Just let them know - - and don't show up.

Red Rose Alley said...

Oh my gosh, Taryterre, I am SO sorry you and your family are going through all of this. As I was reading all of it, I was praying the whole time, and will continue to mention you when I say the Rosary. I wish there was something to take away the pain you are having. You need to just rest now. That is awful what happened to your daughters, and I hope they will be Ok. Having you watch children at your age is exhausting. I know when I spend the whole day with Francesca, I'm tired at the end of the day of running around. Take care, my special friend, and please keep us updated with everything. May God be with you and your family through this most difficult time.

love, ~Sheri

betty said...

I was just thinking of you this morning. I am sooo sorry! What a frightful time you have all had!! Made me think of Job in the Bible. One calamity after another! Definitely will pray for you!

betty

jack69 said...

As you can see you were missed. Our prayers and hopes with for th future that the down hill will level out.
Love you lady and appreciate your entry and I hope that just the blog as you let out the stress will help!
Sherry & jack

jaz@octoberfarm said...

wow...that all really sucks! glad to see you back here. i hope your luck changes!

Donna. W said...

Anyone would be overwhelmed with so many negative forces conspiring against them.

Chatty Crone said...

Oh my gosh Terry - I am so very, very sorry. That is so many terrible things. So much loss. I will send up prayers and pray that everything gets better and no more issues! Sandie

R's Rue said...

Praying.

Sheila Y said...

Bless you and your family, what a lot to have to deal with. Sending up prayers for all of you. Take care of yourself, Sheila

Susan said...

Oh my dear Taryterre. That was such sad news that you and your family have been hit hard. Those kind of years are hard to swallow. I definitely will pray for all of you. I was so happy to see your post! I've been missing you very much and wondered what happened to you. Now I know. Oh, dear friend, I hope things improve SOON.

Pilar said...

I'm new to your blog, but I'm sorry to hear you're going through all of this. Blessings and prayers to you and your family.

Jenny Woolf said...

You have really been suffering and of course we send good vibes your way. I hope so much you can be excused jury duty so you can give your energy to loved ones and yourself too.