Yes, a big change for you, but it might be a wonderful one with your daughters and grandchildren. And while you are helping them out with a place to stay, they may be helping you out with things as well. I hope it all goes well, Taryterre. I love everything about living in the mountains except that I wish I was closer to the daughters. My son is trying to get us a house down there, so we can go back and forth and I'll be able to see the grandgirls more. I've moved three times in five years, and I'm tired, and sometimes I think our children don't know how beaten down we can get when we age. My sister has a similar situation as you are going into, and there are good things about it for her and some challenging things. I think being around your family will make your life pleasant though. Let us know how it's going along the way, as I'm curious about that for myself as I age haha.
I'm envious of your new arrangements. Wish I had people in my life who would bring energy and creativity to what has become my boring and mundane. Embrace their exuberance with love and maybe a little tolerance for their youth. Good luck.
It is extremely difficult to have such a big change in your lifestyle, especially when you've been set in your ways for such a long time. At this point in my life, I could never do it.
There are, however, many positive aspects. You won't be utterly alone during difficult times, especially when you need help in unexpected emergencies.
I'm sure it was devastating when the Christmas tree was removed - - but, all in all, change is often good. Take care.
Wow, Terre! This change borders on earth-shattering; you folks don't do anything halfway, do you? (*grin*) I've always resisted change. (Unless I was the one instigating, lol.) I sense there will be more tears shed before everything comes together; but at the same time, a sense of peace for you and Stu.
You said it, when the family needs you, it can be worked out. Hoping the time will be exciting, for sure things will be different. AND YES we older folk are set in out ways BUT being flexible in LOVE WILL work for the best. WE will be thinking of you and wish you the best.... CHANGE CAN WORK when necessary!!!! Love from NC Sherry & jack...
I am happy for your having daughters and children around. I just hope this does not evolve into children taking over or getting you moved out of your house. Sorry to sound negative, but I have had this happen to friends. I am sure you will feel better about the tree going. Can they just put a large garbage bag over it so can have it back in the future if you decide you need it back for a season?
Since you have an entire upstairs floor that isn't being used this could probably work. They fix it up and live upstairs and you and hubby still have your downstairs. Plus, since you're both getting older, if you need them they will be right there. Set boundaries, make house rules and everyone respects each others space. I hope it all works out for every one of you.
When we bought this place 4 yrs ago and remodeled (it was Amish, no electric etc.), Son 2 and Daughter 3 and Daughter 4 commented we needed to set it up as if we needed someone to live with us in our older years. So the upstairs is done that way except both bathrooms are down stairs. MAYBE in 5 to 10 yrs we will save enough to change the one set of bedrooms to add a bathroom.
As you yourself have noted, and others who commented, there will certainly be a lot of changes in your home. From what you wrote here, it seems that many will be good ones with renovations going on and people in the house should help be needed. Of course, that tree meant something special for so long, but it seems to have served its purpose, and change may be very good in the long run. Please do keep us all posted.
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It's going to be a big change for sure, but I wish you all well. It could be a change for the better. I do hope so.
Yes, a big change for you, but it might be a wonderful one with your daughters and grandchildren. And while you are helping them out with a place to stay, they may be helping you out with things as well. I hope it all goes well, Taryterre. I love everything about living in the mountains except that I wish I was closer to the daughters. My son is trying to get us a house down there, so we can go back and forth and I'll be able to see the grandgirls more. I've moved three times in five years, and I'm tired, and sometimes I think our children don't know how beaten down we can get when we age. My sister has a similar situation as you are going into, and there are good things about it for her and some challenging things. I think being around your family will make your life pleasant though. Let us know how it's going along the way, as I'm curious about that for myself as I age haha.
~Sheri
I'm envious of your new arrangements. Wish I had people in my life who would bring energy and creativity to what has become my boring and mundane. Embrace their exuberance with love and maybe a little tolerance for their youth. Good luck.
It is extremely difficult to have such a big change in your lifestyle, especially when you've been set in your ways for such a long time. At this point in my life, I could never do it.
There are, however, many positive aspects. You won't be utterly alone during difficult times, especially when you need help in unexpected emergencies.
I'm sure it was devastating when the Christmas tree was removed - - but, all in all, change is often good. Take care.
Wow, Terre! This change borders on earth-shattering; you folks don't do anything halfway, do you? (*grin*)
I've always resisted change. (Unless I was the one instigating, lol.)
I sense there will be more tears shed before everything comes together; but at the same time, a sense of peace for you and Stu.
You said it, when the family needs you, it can be worked out. Hoping the time will be exciting, for sure things will be different. AND YES we older folk are set in out ways BUT being flexible in LOVE WILL work for the best.
WE will be thinking of you and wish you the best.... CHANGE CAN WORK when necessary!!!!
Love from NC Sherry & jack...
I am happy for your having daughters and children around. I just hope this does not evolve into children taking over or getting you moved out of your house. Sorry to sound negative, but I have had this happen to friends. I am sure you will feel better about the tree going. Can they just put a large garbage bag over it so can have it back in the future if you decide you need it back for a season?
Since you have an entire upstairs floor that isn't being used this could probably work. They fix it up and live upstairs and you and hubby still have your downstairs. Plus, since you're both getting older, if you need them they will be right there. Set boundaries, make house rules and everyone respects each others space. I hope it all works out for every one of you.
When we bought this place 4 yrs ago and remodeled (it was Amish, no electric etc.), Son 2 and Daughter 3 and Daughter 4 commented we needed to set it up as if we needed someone to live with us in our older years. So the upstairs is done that way except both bathrooms are down stairs. MAYBE in 5 to 10 yrs we will save enough to change the one set of bedrooms to add a bathroom.
As you yourself have noted, and others who commented, there will certainly be a lot of changes in your home. From what you wrote here, it seems that many will be good ones with renovations going on and people in the house should help be needed. Of course, that tree meant something special for so long, but it seems to have served its purpose, and change may be very good in the long run. Please do keep us all posted.
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