Monday, September 26, 2011

UNEMPLOYMENT AFTER DINNER

My husband quietly ate his dinner, then afterwards said we needed to talk. I thought he had a complaint about the food. I was wrong. He needed to tell me about his job. He works in a small startup company bankrolled by one man. They are working on a hybrid system to improve gas mileage in buses. They were starting to sell units while still in development. But they haven’t ironed out all the bugs. So production has halted.  The man financing the operation can no longer afford to do it until more capital comes in. So he slashed jobs. My husband’s was affected. I took his job for granted. I assumed it would always be there. Now it’s not. We lived our lives in the moment, not worried about tomorrow. Too late to undo that kind of thinking. We were ill prepared for this truth. We have nobody to blame, but ourselves. Thank goodness for Social Security. Without it we wouldn’t survive. It’s going to be a major readjustment, living on such a small income. But somehow, some way we will manage. In the meantime, I am grateful my pantry is full and my freezer is well stocked. I have a tendency to stockpile things. That has been a blessing in disguise. I fear the impact of unemployment will hurt most at the holidays. I won’t get to splurge on the grandchildren, like I’ve been accustomed to.  Fortunately, I tucked away some items for them, over the summer, that can be used as gifts. Still Christmas won't be the same. But it will give us more time to focus on the real meaning of the season. On top of all this bad news, more followed... my husband has new heart and breathing problems that have further complicated our lives. For now... no surgery is needed. Thank goodness. But his medicines will cost us a small fortune... at a time, when we can afford it least.  I am asking all my blog buddies to please say a little prayer for us, as we head into this new phase of our lives. It's either sink or swim. I hope we somehow manage to keep our heads above water. "The future comes, one day at a time."

15 comments:

Sonya said...

oh no. I fear this will happen to us with all the stuff going on at my Hubby's work at the guitar place. So I will be saying a prayer for you all. Wow. I know it has to feel scary.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

One day at a time is the best way to live. I've even had times when I had to take it minute by minute. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank the dear Lord your hubby's health issues can be handled by medications. Better than the surgery I think. Years ago my DDH lost his job and we lived on my very tiny income plus his unemployment check and found out we could live on a lot less than we thought we could. Now that I'm retired I live on Social Security and so far have managed just fine. More than fine sometimes, but as far as gift giving goes, It gets to be less and less. I have found out though that the holidays happen no matter what and for my family the being together means more than presents. Somethings money just can't buy.

That corgi :) said...

So sorry to hear this; it is so hard when it happens and catches you by surprise. I am sorry about your husband's health too, I wonder if he'll be able to get help to pay for some of his meds through drug companies, etc. You always hear them advertising "if you can't pay for your medicine, contact......"

Good you have a stockpile of food. You know my next post is going to be on budgeting because we had to do a lot of it ourselves with hubby quitting his job to move closer to parents so our income went down over 70% at least.

Don't panic, although I know it is hard not to. Remember this, God knew this was going to happen. God is walking right alongside you and God says he will take care of your needs (of course our needs defer from what he thinks our needs should be).Just trust in him.

Will pray for you.

As far as gifts for grands, that would be a hard thing if you want to spoil them and can't, however, you know this, spending time with them and maybe developing some new traditions will be just as rewarding as well!

hang in there!!!!!

betty

Bobbi said...

So sorry to hear this. Times seem to be getting tougher and tougher... and you are not alone in all this. The good news is, God will provide. I know it's hard once we're used to living a certain way.. I had to cut way back on Christmas as well. Did you ever see the very first Little House on the Prairie premier episode where the little girls got a sock with an orange and a pair of mittens I believe (something like that). They were so grateful. I think the less people have, (including kids) the more they appreciate what they do have. I do know though, that it's hard to 'go backwards'. I will be praying for your situation...

jack69 said...

This is never good news, but there is always life to be proud of. We are hoping for better things in the job situation. I know we, who are not affected, cannot really feel the impact.
Our prayers, and the best wishes. Sounds like you have a positive attitude, that is needed, first and foremost.
Sending love & Hugs.

LYN said...

Thank goodness for the things you mentioned...makes me stop and think..hubby retires from the Military next year and we are counting on him finding another job...you will be in my prayers for sure..

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

Wow, that is tough news. Hope you can make the transition to a simpler situation.

Nelle said...

I am sorry to hear this. As you know, my company fired me one week prior to my last heart surgery. I cannot collect unemployment as I am not able to work. I have applied for SSDI but heard nothing after 3 mos. My husband had his company pack up and leave our state after he worked there a decade and has only been at the new place 1 1/2 yrs where he had to start over. Things are tight here as well. I am sorry about your husband's problems. Will be praying for all your needs to be met.I think the best Christmases I had was when money was tight, gifts were scarce but I helped my grandmother bake cookies and cakes. Make some memories with them and that is the best gift.

~mel said...

Hi. I just popped in from Jack & Sherry's blog. OH ... I can't tell you how much I can relate to your situation ~ as we have been living it for some time now. Fortunately, my husband is employed; but the hospital bills, insurance, gas, groceries, etc... far exceed his paycheck. I've been disabled and out of the work force a little over 10 years now. It's really hard to live in a two full time income world on a one income check. All you can do is take it one day at a time, accept the things you cannot change, and count your blessing in each other and family. Life is too short to quit living just because you're financially broke. If that were the case, I'd a been dead for some time now. Seriously, hang in there ~ there has to be a life's lesson being learned here... that's what I keep telling myself:)This is just another chapter.

TARYTERRE said...

Thank you for commenting, honey.

I tried to comment on your most recent blog entry but it wouldn't let me. I got a prompt that said something about cookies & being in the wrong form. It must be my computer. :-(

So I'll leave my comment here. I hope you come back here & read it:

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I am so sorry to hear this... but you will not sink! The universe will not let you... it is made of mostly water. You will float.

Immediately contact your doctor & let him/her know of this issue. Maybe doc can help in some way. Then contact social services at your local hospital... the social workers there have resources galore. Contact your local Salvation Army church too, even tho you may not belong to their congregation. They might be able to help you &/or give you other resources.

We all live in the moment, my dear. To me it's the only way to live. Just keep doing that even now & don't ponder too much about the future. Take one day at a time cos that's all any of us can handle anyway.

xoxoxoxo
Andrea

September 29, 2011 11:28 AM

Buttercup said...

No advice, but lots of prayers. Somehow I always believed that getting older would make life easier, but the last few years have certainly made that untrue. As an aside, how old are your grandchildren?

TARYTERRE said...

We have a first grader and a preschooler.

Raindrops and Daisies said...

Thinking of you.

Take good care of yourself.

Fiona

Debra said...

So sorry about your husband's job and now new health worries. My husband lost his job one year ago this month. Finding a job at 61 is not easy but God has seen us through this and yes we take it day by by.

Enjoyed visiting your blog by way of Buttercups blog. I will pray for you, and be back to visit again.

Blessings,
Debra

Lori said...

I'm very sorry about this situation. Seems like this kind of thing is affecting more and more people. My husband has had a lot of slow down at his job this year, and we too have had to make adjustments. I hope all will be well for you.